Be honest. No seriously, be honest

How many of you actually knew Paul Walker was such a charitable guy? Did you know he did so much for victims of natural disasters? I bet you didn't. Now his charity will make more money after he died than they ever would have if he were still alive. How fucked up is our society that people would rather report about Miley Cyrus twerking than about a guy trying to raise money to help those in need? We can't solely blame the media either. We, as consumers, are more likely to read about some dumb teeny bopper than about those that are trying to do good. That's why the media reports the way they do. In fact it's so bad that they don't even need reporters or paparazzi anymore. Regular every day people who happen to be in the right place at the right time can sell the pictures and video they take. It's so aggravating.

 I see Ian Somerhalder trying to do great things for the environment but the only articles I ever read about him have to do with The Vampire Diaries. I only know about his charitable work because I follow him on Facebook and Twitter. When I read articles on people.com or EW it's only about his acting. Or the fact that he no longer dates his co star. 

Kate Winslet has a charity that she founded to help families with children that are autistic. I bet you didn't know that? 

There is so much good out there and all we ever hear about, all we ever pay attention to, is the bad. This, in part, is what's wrong with society. 

I'm guilty of clicking on articles about stupid shit. I actually clicked on a link one time because the headline was about Kim Kardashian wearing high heels while giving birth. I could careless about such things, but I read about it anyway. I felt sick afterwards, but still. 

Another thing that has pissed me off about when a celebrity dies is when I see people post "oh you are so sad when a celebrity dies but what about all the soldiers that die and no one mentions them?". Well first of all if we don't hear about it, how are we supposed to show emotion. like if it makes national news or if we weren't closely connected to said soldier, how can you say if I would or would not care about the soldier. Who are you to judge me on who I can and can not mourn. 

I'm sure that last bit surprises a lot of you given my extreme patriotism. My point is that Paul Walker, Whitney Houston, Michael Jackson, Cory Montieth, Britney Murphy and countless other celebrities were important to people. They had fans that brought them into their homes. We feel a closeness to these people because they are larger than life and in most of our minds, in our subconscious, we don't think anything can happen to them. Then they die, they become human and our human nature is to mourn.

For the record I have posted countless articles about soldiers dying or about other issues involving military personal and they barely get "likes" let alone comments or shares. So get off your freaking high horse about Military casualties. I don't see you talking about them unless a celebrity dies. so really who is the "bad" person here??

People always want to say "he/she was so young", " they were taken way too soon". Really? So when someone is 80 or 90 it's ok because they lived longer? Sure they lived longer, that doesn't mean they lived better or "deserved" to die. I call to your attention the death of Babe Heffron one day after the death of Paul Walker. A man who lived to be 90 who had numerous medals from fighting in the Second World War. A man whom I only saw mentioned by one other person on Facebook. Did he live longer than Paul Walker ? Yes. Does that mean he lived a better life or that he did everything he ever wanted to do? No. So maybe he was taken too soon as well. A man who saw his friends blown up in front of him, a man who had to live every day with what he lived with deserves recognition as much as Paul Walker. In my eyes anyway. I'm not going to hate the people that don't post remembrances of  Mr. Heffron though. It's not my place to force you to mourn someone that I do. I didn't know either man. I wasn't a huge Paul Walker fan, in fact as sad as it is to say I like him more now. Why? Because unfortunately I  am just now learning about what an awesome person  Paul Walker really was.

I have read comments by numerous people who actually knew Mr. Walker say how much he loved race cars. He even co owned a shop with the man who was killed with him. In the end, even if the car malfunctioned as so many people are saying, he died going fast. He died doing what he loved. I hope people can say that about me some day. (no I am not saying he wanted to die or even that the man driving was going fast on purpose. I am simply saying he loved cars and he was riding around in one that happened to kill him.)

People are really in an uproar about no one saying anything about the man who died with Paul Walker. I was guilty of not posting about him until I saw a celebrity post on twitter about being friends with the man. It was very tragic that he died as well. He leaves behind a wife and young child. I don't think people intentionally ignored the fact that another man died. I think we were all caught up in the moment and the whole "was it a hoax?", situation. At least that was my reasoning. Maybe I'm in denial and don't want to believe that we are all that blinded by celebrity. It's sad really.

Another thing I hate, yes there is another, is all the fake ass condolences I keep seeing. Don't say "oh my god he was my favorite actor. I can't believe he is gone" if this is the first time you've ever mentioned the man. Don't try to make this about you. You want people to like your Facebook status and you have a RIP Paul Walker page, but you never even liked his verified account before he died? Get the fuck out of here. People always try to make it about them. I get sick of seeing "let's see if this page can get a million likes". Really? You just want attention.

I named my first pet "ditto" after Patrick Swayze's movie "Ghost", I owned every single one of his movies and I even had a "Johnny Castle" poster on my wall for a good part of my childhood. I was really upset when he died. Guess what? I didn't expect people to say "oh man niki, I'm so sorry for your loss!" The same situation when River Phoenix and Johnathan Brandis died. I mourned them but I didn't let it consume me because I at least have their movies to remember them. After all that's how I knew them to begin with.

My husband always says "I refuse to be sad over someone I didn't know." He has watched the show the Sopranos a million times and even when James Gandolfini passed away, he barely showed emotion. I don't think less of him for not sitting down and crying for days or posting a bunch of "RIP" status'. Why should I be allowed to judge people like my husband if I don't want them judging me for mourning people I don't know. After all, he knew Gandolfini as well as I knew Patrick Swayze right?

Also if you must make tasteless jokes about the deceased, at least know your audience. I make really bad jokes sometimes, but I don't post them online for a reason. Not everyone has my same sick twisted sense of humor and some people not only get their feelings hurt, but they actually take it personally. No we shouldn't have to censor ourselves all the time, but there is a period of mourning that should be taken into consideration. Not everyone cares for that kind of humor anyway.Like I said know your audience. Is it really worth some stupid facebook battle with your friends just because you want to be able to say whatever you want. Sometimes human decency needs to take precedent over you trying to be the most edgy person on the internet that day.  Plus, in this case, Paul Walker has a 14 year old daughter that doesn't need to see that shit. Get your facts straight before posting anything because in the end it just makes you look like an idiot. Saying "he got what he deserved for being reckless", is jumping to conclusions. In fact, the information coming out in the last 13 or so hours is pointing the car having some sort of malfunction.which brings me to my next issue:

When the news was first reported that Paul Walker died there was one site saying he died. TMZ. TMZ is not every one's cup of tea and sometimes their methods of getting information are not very ethical, but the fact is they were the first to report the accident. I have been following TMZ for awhile now, and the only story I can ever remember them getting wrong is the Lil Wayne death report. They were the first to report Michael Jackson died and no one believed them for at least an hour. They reported Whitney Houston dying and everyone yelled "hoax". For the first hour after Paul Walker died it was mass confusion. "creditable" news sites were saying that he died but they were not saying they could confirm it. They wanted to report that the actor had died but each site made sure to say "TMZ is reporting". I kept tabs on a couple of these sites and when it was finally confirmed, they all changed their info to "TMZ was the first to report". Even wikipedia, which I do not rely on for breaking news, listed and then unlisted the date of death. How cowardly that you want to report the news, but you also want to make sure that if it's a hoax you don't get blamed. Maybe those other sites should have waited for their "creditable" sources before trying to report the news, but not really report the news. Riding on someone else's coattails doesn't make you a good reporter, it makes you a follower. Why not wait until you have all the facts if you are that scared to report it? This is just my opinion and it doesn't really matter to me that others don't like TMZ, like I said they have been right in what they report way more often than they have been wrong. They don't have to have reporters standing around stalking celebrities either. Us "civilians" gladly take videos and pictures and sell them to TMZ. So if you hate TMZ because of the whole "paparazzi" issue, maybe you should do some research and you'll see that a lot of the times they have "eye witness video".

I'm gonna be honest,
I have a crazy sense of humor, I laugh at things that should not be considered funny, I read trashy magazines because sometimes I need to clear my head. I don't care about Miley Cyrus, but she is selling magazines. Some people care about that nonsense otherwise the magazines and websites wouldn't write about her. However, I also post articles about charity organizations, and causes that matter to me. I wouldn't say I am a bad person. in fact I said it before and Ill say it again:

I cried when Princess Diana died, I thank every vet that I meet for their service. If these things don't make me a good person, then I don't know what does.